asexual X bisexual

straightaway-to-wonderland:

• because when I was little I thought being into girls AND guys felt normal for me so long that I had a really hard time trying to u der stand why I had to ‘choose’ and better choose for boys

• because I learned I was bisexual when I was 11 and it was a wonderful moment cause I felt like there are people like me and it was great. Until I found out that only very few people speak up and speak up for us

• because I felt like the oppression I felt was just wasn’t justified because I had the ‘passing privilege’

• because I felt like I didn’t have a place in the LGBTQIA community, even though I wasn’t hetero and even though my sexuality is a part of that community

• because when I was walking down the street with my mother and baby brother and she projected her hetero sexuality on him I tried to intervene asking if it would be bad if he’d be homosexual. She denied and said she’d love him. Then I said he could be also bisexual to which she furiously answered I shouldn’t say such stupid stuff, bisexual people were just greedy and just can’t decide and should pick a side.

• because in this moment at 13 years old I was sure they’d kick me out the second the found out and said to myself that I’d never come out to them

• because I had friends that continuously called me lesbian even though they knew very well I’m bi but insisted telling everyone they new and I just met that I’m a lesbian

• because when male famous persons outs themselves they are are gay and when females out themselves they are lesbians

• because people say that coming out as bisexual isn’t a real coming out and isn’t as hard as coming out as gay or trans

• because when bi people come out other say 'you’ll change your mind’ 'it’s just a phase’ 'get over it don’t be greedy’

• because when I like a girl I’m a lesbian and when I like a boy I’m straight

• because every character that has bisexual tendencies get directly marked as gay or as the 'cliché greedy bisexual’ or their sexuality doesn’t get mentioned

• because when there is ONE character that’s canonly bisexual my heart skips a beat cause someone cared enough to openly use the 'b-word’ (even though it’s not in the TV but during an interview or such)

• because for a little no time I felt like I really had to decide wether I 'want’ to be hetero or homo

• because we have to fight so hard in fight hate within our own community

• because there are tons and tons of bi kids out there going through the same thoughts and stuff I went through or even worse things

• because we are part of the invisible unit of the LGBTQIA community that’s mentioned but never recognized or accepted

• because passing privilege justifies being an outcast

• because way too much bi people feel like they will never fit in no matter where

• because a search for bisexual support groups is long and hard and even if you find one its a million miles away

• because people think we are half straight half gay when we are neither

• because people still argue with 'bi means two’ and won’t accept the correct definition of bisexuality

• because bisexuality is the attraction to two OR MORE genders

• because we can be accepted to boys and nb persons but no one believes we can cause they think being bisexual means liking boys and girls and that’s it

• because even though we are part of the community it’s hard for a bisexual in a hetero LOOKING relationship to come to pride without being discriminated

The list goes on and on and I encourage you to add your own experiences and thoughts